They know that optimal mental and physical functioning requires good healthful sleep, so they use relaxation techniques and reduce or eliminate sleeping pills.
The link between relaxation and sleep is a cyclical one: stress can cause bad sleep which cycles into more stress the next day. Conversely, better sleep leads to more balanced thinking and less stress which leads to falling asleep more easily.
They create firm zones of unplugged time. They don’t keep the phone in the bedroom at night and prefer an old-school alarm clock to wake them up in the morning.
Some people may even challenge themselves to leave the phone at home when they go out for a romantic dinner. It may be hard to do at first, but eventually creates a much more relaxed feeling of being free and in control, rather than being at the whim of alerts and vibrations all evening.
Fact-check negative self-talk
They have learned to spot and crush the negative voice that drags people down.
They use techniques like guided imagery to boost self-image. Instead of having that subconscious voice saying “you can’t” and “you’re not good enough” they have trained the voice to be a cheerleader and say “you’ve got this!”
They see situations from many different angles.
They understand that each person has their own point of view, and they open up to other ways of seeing things. They sympathize with peoples’ perspectives and realize that, in many situations, there is no “good guy” and “bad guy”, just people seeing things through the filter of their own life experience.
They limit or eliminate caffeine because it mimics the effects of epinephrine (adrenaline) in the body and can make it harder to relax.
They know the times when caffeine can be useful, for example, before speaking to a large audience when a bit of extra energy can infuse them with vigour. But they also know that planning and decision making are best done with a calmer mind and caffeine can interfere with that.